2. Throw out the bad-boy habit. News flash: Good guys haven’t gone the way of the 8-track. They live in bulk. The trick is to learn to both recognize and desire a man of value. “I was attracted to guys who have missioned to hurt me," says transformed bad-boy lover Jane Smith, a 31-year-old New York Web designer. "It would be clear from the get-go. They would never call though said they would, were continuously caught in brainless lies, said they loved me, and then ran around with new women. And I couldn’t believe one even tried to seduce my best friend." throughout these years, Jane kept fence that her dates were the best of a bad lot: No man could be so kind or truthful. Then she went to a cousin's wedding. "Mia's bridegroom Rod was the sweetest man in the world. He apparently adored my cousin and lived to make her happy," says Jane. "It is so sweet to see loving light in his eyes; I vowed that one day I would meet a man who would look at me like I am his everything."
Jane took a dating break and did some much-required thinking about the starting place of her obsession with bad boys. "My dad was a life-of-the-party type, He left for good when I was ten years old. But as a husband and father he was cold and heartless." She admits. “After that, the few times I would see him I would virtually do cartwheels to get his attention. I began metaphorically dating my dad when I was old enough to have a boyfriend. Once I realized what I had been doing, I started seeing the appeal of guys who were not as flamboyant or untrustworthy, guys who were able of caring."
Today Jane is engaged — to a Rod type. "I can not believe I washed out all that time on men who treated me like dust," she says. "But I think it was worth it, because it finally taught me to strictly appreciate a good man."
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